Couples faced with fertility problems may experience problems within their families as to why they cannot have children but also experience social pressures from their community.
This pressure can create problems such as decrease in self-esteem leading to feelings of worthlessness, depression, increased concerns about marriage and somatic symptoms (stomach ulcers, psychological headaches, skin disorders) in couples.
Couples experiencing constant negative outcomes after they have repeatedly failed IVF treatment, can be faced with the question is donation the next step forward in IVF?
Couples live the mourning of the failure to reach completing their family and this is a loss that some may not be able to accept. When faced with the concept of Donation couples can be faced with mixed feelings, some are not accepting of the idea, whereas some may feel surprised, sad or full of fear when their doctors present this to them as an option.
After making the decision of donation
Many couples that make the decision of continuing treatment with donation primarily focus on finding the best donors that are similar to themselves. Expectant mothers can live concerns for the matter of bonding to the baby in this period. However, it is observed that these concerns steadily decrease during pregnancy. Expectant mothers from resulted donation cycles need to understand that these concerns are extremely natural and very normal in this situation.
What do couples who have undergone donation treatment think?
A patient who had IVF treatment twice before and when both resulted in a negative, then went on to have a child with egg donation with her 3rd attempt. She reported that it was not a decision made easily and after self-preparation and research by contacting mothers that had children with donation via internet forums she felt she was ready to go ahead with treatment. These interviews have provided a very useful guidance for her, nevertheless she experienced the feeling as to what “if I’m doing something wrong” prior to the procedure. She then expressed her focus on the idea that encouraged her was that; “The donor providing me this opportunity does not recognise me, will never recognise me and is a stranger to me and is prepared physiologically to be able to help me. Which features would I want to be inherited by my child? To have my own hair colour or the characteristic features of a donor with a dedication to help a stranger she does not know? “. These considerations have pretty shaped her ideas about donation; the patient then went on to have a girl to whom she adores.
Research carried out on 200 participants in Turkey, has shown that more than half of the participants keep the donation option first than adoption.