Couples who have undergone IVF treatment and have been faced with negative results are then introduced to the idea that continuing IVF with donation maybe the next step forward by their doctor.
Being sure that the confidentiality of your treatment and identity is honoured
An important factor that influences couples and the choice of the centre that they wish to go ahead with treatment with is the fact that their identity, in line with the donors is kept confidential. Couples want to be sure that their personal information is protected at the centre. When choosing the correct centre feelings of mistrust and indecisiveness need to be eliminated before going ahead.
Donation abroad is anonymous, whereas donation in Europe and America is non-anonymous and the identity of the donor can be found out by any resulting child in the future.
It is necessary to be prepared mentally before entering into IVF treatment with donation, what we must remember that whether it is sperm or egg donation considered, any resulting child will carry 50% of the couple’s genes.
Psychological research performed over the years shows emphasise on the importance of child-rearing attitudes as well as genetic factors in the development of a child, on-going studies reveal that due to hormones and instincts neither the child nor the mother encounter any difference from normal pregnancies and have no problem in forming a bond.
To cope with social pressures
Another issue that couples undergoing donation is how to explain this to the other people. Some patients are not worried openly talking about their treatment process while some may choose to only tell immediate family and close friends.
Couples, who are faced with donation treatment, can encounter the following troubles:
- Fear of being misunderstanding by their relatives;
- Belief that infertility is a personal problem;
- Fear of encountering questions about the identity of the biological mother or father;
- Concerns against others’ attitudes towards their children;
- Concerns brought by religious and cultural structures.
It is advised to undergo psychological counselling before and during treatment process in order to cope with such negative feelings. It should not be forgotten not to be hesitant and to seek psychological counselling at any stage of the treatment, any extra help can also place a positive feeling into treatment.